Soc Sci 11 Lesson 6: Dating

DATING

I.   What is Dating and Not Dating?

1.  A game	2.  Art
3.  Just about looking for love	4.  Play (Drama. Action etc)
5.  About complaining who you’re with	6.  Selling
	7.  Deal
	8.  Adventure

II.  Ways to Date

1. Intelligent Dating

-Conscious Dating/Loving

2. Brainless Dating

-One Night Stands

III. Why do we date?

1.    Natural part of growing up

2.    Helps meet in different kinds of people

3.    Introduces you to new social settings and gives you new experiences

4.    Gives you companionship

          Why Date? Healthy or Unhealthy Motives?

1.    To be seen socially with the right people

2.    Share social experiences

3.    To make someone else jealous

4.    Use another for the places they can take them

5.    Use another for physical gratification or date them expecting physical favors.

6.    Go to new places

7.    Try new experiences

8.    Have fun

9.    Meet new poeple

10. Use another for emotional support to get over another person

11. Use another for the presents they can buy them

IV.          Two Basic Rules of Dating

1. Being happy with yourself, getting to know yourself and someone else, and enjoying yourselves individually and together

2. Not about playing

V. What is Chemistry/Enegetics?

VI.          Intelligent Dating Guidelines

1.    Do not date too young.

-When is the best age to start dating?

2.    Date people your own age

–Who should you date?

3.    Get to know lots of people

4.    Date in groups

5.    Set your own boundaries

6.    Have a plan

VII. Dating Rights (Do’s and Don’t’s)

1.    Be yourself

-Do feel confident

-Do not lie. Be honest about whether you’re interested in seeing the person again

2.    An enjoyable safe date

-Do not put yourself in uncomfortable situations such as _______

-Do not ogle other men and women

3.    Have your values respected

4.    Care for and protect your body

-Do not become intoxicated or make unwanted advances

5.    Establish and protect your reputation

6.    Be free from guilt and fear

-Do not bring up your exes unless you’re having a specific conversatiobn about past relationship

7.    Say NO

VIII.       Q and A

1.    Who pays?

The gentleman pays unless:

~he is younger

~Dutchtreat

2.    Fastfood chains/Restaurants?

3.    When do you have sex?

~wait until you….

IX.  Do’s and Don’ts of Dumping

DO	DONT
1.  Take responsibility for your action	1. Break up over the phone
2.  Talk about splitting as a mutual benefit so the rejectee doesn’t feel ________	2.Break up before an important date
3.  Be respectful (feelings)	3. Blame or criticize what he did or did not do
4.  Reaffirm that there was something good between you to reassure the dumpee ______	4. Frightful five blow off
5.  Remind the dumpee of wonderful aspects of himself/herself	5. Accept being the
6.  Point out your resistance
7.  Be sure about what you’re doing
8.  Spell out the terms of the separation clearly

X. Project Tasks

1.    How to ask a Lady/Guy for a Date?

2.    The Movie of My Dating Life

a)-Imagine yourself in the movie of your dating life:

a. What is happening?

b. Who is doing what to whom?

c. What is the genre of your movie? (Ex: drama, R-rated)

b)-Also imagine what movie your date would picture him or herself in.

a. Do the movies have similar themes?

b. Does your date know the role you have cast him in

c. What is the genre of your movie? (Ex: drama, R-rated)

c) Tell him/her your story and see if you he/she can play a role in it

a. Do your plots overlap? If both of you like the scenes in your movies, practice it in preparation for the actual date on February 2014. If either one of you do not like the scenes in your movies, talk with each other on how you would like it to go.

THE MOVIE OF MY DATING LIFE

Title of the Film:

Main Characters:

SUMMARY OF THE PLOT:

CRITICAL SCENES:

SCREENPLAY:

3.    Tasks

1.    Address your date by name frequently

2.    Smile

3.    Look your best (How to look the part)

4.    Give a token gift (do not go overboard and over anxious to please)

5.    How to walk down the street

6.    How to take the escalator

7.    Start a continuous conversation

8.    How to have dinner date at home

9.    Compliment your date

10. How to take a lady in a restaurant (Dinner Date)

a.    How to order in a restaurant

b.    Where and how to let her seat in a dining table at a restaurant

c.    How to walk in a restaurant

d.    How to leave the restaurant

e.    How to take her coat off

f.     How eat bread/appetizer

g.    How to order and drink wine

h.    How to pay

i.      How to use the utensils

j.      Eating manners

k.    Bathroom breaks

l.      What to order

11. How to introduce your date to:

a.    A group of your classmates/friends

b.    To your parents

12. How to pick her up

a.    Getting inside and outside the car

13. A. How to get tickets in a movie (Movie Date)

b. How to go to your seat in the movie

c. How to leave the movie house

Soc Sci 11 Long Quiz 1

SOC SCI 11 SOCIAL GRACES, ETIQUETTE AND PROTOCOL

 Long Quiz 1

Name: _____________________   Class Number: _________  Date:    ____________

                        Year and Course: __________________   Score:  ____________

I. TRUE/FALSE. Write T if the idea presented in each statement is correct and F if it is not on the space provided. Each question is worth 1 point. NO ERASURES OF ANY KIND. USE BALLPEN OF ANY COLOR.  (6 points)

1.     Manners for business constitute a distinct and separate phase of etiquette.

2.     It is enough to know the proper thing to do.

3.     Reading an etiquette bok is a waste of time.

4.     It is never too late to learn the niceties of good manner

5.     Common sense can solve most questions relating to good manners.

6.     Good Manners are a combination of knowing the proper thing to do and doing them considerately and graciously.

II. Completion. Fill in the blanks that will make the sentences best describe an effective telephone skill. (10 points)

1.     If the call is not for you, ______________________________.

2.     When you have dialled the wrong number, _____________________________

3.     The most important aspect of your voice is ____________________________.

4.     When taking a caller off hold, you shoud say ______________________________.

5.     __________________ should end the phone call first.

6.     In handling irate calls, you should apply H.E.A.T which stands for __________________________________________.

7.     Articulation is _________________________________

8.     One common mistake made by receiver is ______________________________

9.     One common mistake made by caller is ________________________________

10.  Toll Free number means ______________________________________

IVA. SHORT ANSWER. Please write your answer at the back.

1.     Do you agree with the following statements? Why? Discuss in exactly four sentences only.

a.     Defects in behavior are intensified as we grow older. (4 points)

b.    Bad manners are more likely to be overlooked in young people than in older people. (4 points)

2.     A queen of England said to her granddaughter, “You may have been born a princess, but you will have to learn to be a lady.” What does it mean? Answer in exactly 4 sentences only. (4 points)

3.     In bullet form and two sentences only per 1 reason, enumerate and discuss three (3) reasons

and possible explanations you might  give to your parents which will not offend them regarding your wish

that neither parent (mom and dad) should enter your room in your absence to look through you desk

and other personal belongings. (6 points)

ex:

Reason 1 ______: Explanation: 1) _____________ and 2) ___________________
Reason 2 ______: Explanation: 1) _____________ and 2) ___________________
           

V. ESSAY.

1.  Your high school reunion is a week away. You’re eager to see your long-lost buddies, but you’ve gained quite

a bit of weight over the years. You’re considering passing up this event rather than enduring everyone’s shocked looks.

a.     How will you talk to yourself into a state of determination and anticipation?

b.    How will you visualize to mentally rehearse how you want the evening to go?

c.     How will you familiarize yourself with the location?

d.    How will you picture yourself walking in and towering instead of cowering?

Answer in four (4) sentences only per question. (16 points)