Soc Sci 11 Lesson 1

RULE BREAKERS, RULE MAKERS:WHY YOU GOTTA BE SO RUDE? A MODULE FOR SOC SCI 11 ETIQUETTE SOCIAL GRACES AND PROTOCOL

LESSON 1

PRETEST

I.   Check Yes or No for every item.	YES	NO
1.  Do you comb your hair in public? 2.  Do you clean your fingernails and scrape off polish publicly? 3.  Do you monopolize a conversation 4.  Do you join a select group at a party and stay with that group all evening? 5.  Do you think you make a good first impression? 6.  Do you close your mouth to chew and eat quietly? 7.  Do you express yourself in good English both orally and written? 8.  When you go visiting, do you leave at a reasonable hour? 9.  Are you careful to make telephone calls at a convenient hour 10. Do you relinquish your seat to older persons or to women with small children when you riding a jeepney, bus or a train?
II.  Answer the following questions. 1.  How do you respond/react when someone compliments you? 2.  How can a woman be effective in her work without capitalizing on her sex? 3.  How does one introduce another person? 4.  Why is it usually poor judgment and bad taste to discuss salaries? 5.  What misconduct in public do you find most annoying? 6.  Make a list of 5 discourteous behavior that you dislike in men/women.

A.      What is Etiquette?

Etiquette is a set of conventional rules, form/formulas and practices of personal behavior and good manners in polite society. The customs handed down to us or the one we formulate to meet specific conditions.

Personal behaviour

Personal behaviour indicates that etiquette is something we acquire and practise as individuals. Appropriate behaviour is learnt at home, how to speak to adults, how to eat in a proper manner and how one uses a telephone. This is further taught at school and as young adults entering the business world, you know how to conduct yourself in a polite society. We must take cultural and religious backgrounds into account when we discuss etiquette. Office etiquette therefore has some standard rules, which can be learnt and practised on a daily basis.+

Polite society

Polite society is about order, about respect for others and about earning their respect in return. As proper behaviour in our own communities is important, so is it in the office, thus having mutual respect for people who have different cultures and views. For example I believe eating with a knife and fork is correct, but my Chinese colleague believes chopsticks are the proper way.

Conventional rules – guide to individual action

‘Whose rules of conduct do I follow?’

‘What is the appropriate behaviour?’

‘Will I be appropriately dressed?’

It comes from the French word “ticket”. Louis XIV tagged the palace ground with “Etiquettes” telling visitors “This way to the rose garden” and “Please keep off the grass”

Etiquette is about presenting yourself with the kind of polish that shows you can be taken seriously. Etiquette is also about being comfortable around people, and making them comfortable around you! It is how we take the rules and portray them in dealing with other people.

B.    What are Manners?

Manners express how much we care about other people, their feelings, and their needs.  The basis for good manners is consideration for others.  Manners are the happy way of doing things. It is the heart of courteous behavior. It has practical and civic value.

People tend to follow the established pattern. Each generation, however discards rules of conduct that no longer seem appropriate and adds new ones.

C.   Etiquette VS Manners?

ETIQUETTE	MANNERS
Differences
1.    Head	1.    Heart
2.	2. Under our control because they flow from our heart
3.	3. Give us the power to treat other people with kindness and respect, even when we don’t feel like it.
4.	4. Must govern the rigid rules of etiquette.
5.    Reveals one’s good breeding	5. Good manners portray a warm heart, good intentions, and self-respect regardless of one’s economic status.
Similarities
1.    Shield against embarrassment

Similarities

1.    Shield against embarrassment

D.   How Etiquette is Learned?

1.    Common Sense.  A wall plaque titled “Dutch House Rules” appeals to common sense:

1.     If you open it, close it.

2.     If you turn it on, turn it off.

3.     If you move it, put it back.

4.     If you borrow it, return it.

5.     If you break it, repair it.

6.     If you make a mess, clean it up.

7.     If it is none of your concern, keep it that way.”

2.    Parents Modeling to Children.

Home is where it all begins.  Parents have the opportunity to build character in their children.  It takes character to be polite when we would like to return rude for rude

3.    Books.

One example is You Can Raise a Well-Mannered Child by June Hines Moore.  An excellent book for teenagers is The Teenage Book of Manners…Please! by Fred Hartley and Family.  Another could be Emily Post’s Etiquette 15th Edition by Elizabeth Post.

4.   Watching Others: Be observant.  Watch someone older, especially the hostess.

5.    Trial and Error.

We all make mistakes.  Learn from them.  When you don’t know what to do in a given situation, do that which you think would be the least disruptive.

E.   How does Etiquette Benefit You?

1. Differentiates you from others in a competitive job market

2. Enables you to be confident in a variety of settings with a variety of people

3. Honors commitment to excellence and quality

4. Modifies distracting behaviors and develops admired conduct.

F.   What is Protocol?

It is defined by rules, formulas of correct behavior in a specific situation that tells us what we should or should not do. Ex: Workplace protocol

G.   What is Ethics?

Ethics involves learning what is right or wrong, and then doing the right thing.

Ethics pertains to a system of moral principles; the branch of philosophy dealing with values relating to human conduct, with respect to the rightness and wrongness of certain actions and to the goodness and badness of the motives and ends of such actions.

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Code of Ethics for Faculty Members of the University of the

Philippines*

 With faith in humankind and the quest for knowledge and with commitment to the

best in our profession as educators in order to liberate the human spirit, we the

members of the faculty of the University of the Philippines hereby, pledge to:

I. Uphold the honor of the University of the Philippines, first and foremost;

II. Pursue excellence in instruction, research and extension, and work continuously towards advancing our knowledge and skills to a level comparable with the best in the world;

III. Promote a strong sense of nationalism and enduring concern for social justice, gender equality, cultural values, community welfare, and protection of the environment;

IV. Keep academic freedom inviolate in the performance of our roles and responsibilities as teachers and scholars with integrity, honesty, creativity, propriety, fairness and devotion;

V. Instill in our students the passion for learning, the discipline attendant to the pursuit of excellence, intellectual honesty, and respect for the humane;

VI. Relate with our colleagues in the spirit of cooperation, camaraderie, and professionalism;

VII. Maintain honesty and fairness in our dealings with colleagues, students and entities outside of the University;

VIII. Reject activities and interests that interfere with our responsibilities as faculty members and conflict with the interests of the University;

IX. Participate actively in the effective governance and institutional development of the University; and

X. Abide by the laws of the land and provisions of the Charter of the

University and the University Code, as well as the lawful rules and

regulations of the duly constituted authorities of the University

System.

TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR COMPUTER ETHICS

 1. Thou shalt not use a computer to harm other people.

2. Thou shalt not interfere with other people's computer work.

3. Thou shalt not snoop around in other people's files.

4. Thou shalt not use a computer to steal.

5. Thou shalt not use a computer to bear false witness.

6.Thou shalt not use or copy software for which you have not paid.

7. Thou shalt not use other people's computer resources without authorization.

8. Thou shalt not appropriate other people's intellectual output.

9. Thou shalt think about the social consequences of the program you write.

10. Thou shalt use a computer in ways that show consideration and respect.

SAMPULONG TUGON KAN BIKOLANONG MANGIGINUM

1.    Dai Mag-inum na gutom.

2.    An inumon ilaag sa tulak bako sa alimantak

3.    Dai mag-inum na daing pulutan.

4.    An pulutan, pulutan bakong panira.

5.    Dai magpara-pakidiskusyon sa mga kairinuman nganing dai malamuyuan. 

6.    Dai pagpahaluyon an baso ta dakol pa an naghahalat 

7.    Dai nanggad magkaturog sa harampangan.

8.    Bago mag-inum, magpaaram sa agom nganing dai pagsusugon.

9.    An tagay sa baso, ubuson dai mag-tada o ipag-ula ta mahal an inumon

10.  Dai sana magparainum mag-tagapainum man sa kahampang.